Having a pet in the house has a number of benefits to our overall physical and emotional health. But I’ve heard many friends and clients question whether it would be better to remove a pet from their aging parents’ homes to prevent injuries or to eliminate the added responsibility of caring for an animal.

Carolyn Rosenblatt of AgingParents.com wrote recently for Forbes about the problems pets can present in the home of an elderly person.  If your parent has a large dog or a cat that is old and can’t see or hear a human coming to get out of the way, there is the risk that your parent could trip and fall sustaining serious injuries. And if your parent suffers from dementia, there is concern for the pet that it won’t get fed or taken outside for walks.

But whatever the risks, it is likely they can and should be mitigated to preserve the parent-pet bond.

According to research in the Journal of the American Geriatrics Society, caring for a pet serves as a buffer against isolation and loneliness. And further studies suggest that petting a dog for a few minutes a day can relieve stress, lower a person’s blood pressure, and alleviate depression. Pets also aid elders in their socialization with others, serving as a conversation starter.

If the pet is unruly, offer to pay for training, Rosenblatt suggests, or shop together for a collar or harness that provides more control. If your parent is frail, find someone to walk to dog to prevent falls or suggest that your parent’s home care worker go along on walks to monitor your parent’s safety.

Whatever the risks, it is probably more beneficial to your parent’s health to protect that owner-pet bond. Safety is a family issue, but don’t forget that Fido or Fluffy is family, too.

James D. Perry

My wife and I are off to Vermont, New Hampshire and Maine for vacation before the summer days slip away.    I’ve left instructions with my capable staff on when and how to contact me if needed, with any luck they will be able to get by just fine without me for a couple of weeks.  It would be horribly irresponsible of me to not just show up on Monday morning without telling them or my clients that I will be away.

But what if I don’t come back?   What if I choke on a lobster tail or have the big one whilst trolling for trout on Lake Winamasake?   Well, all of you that were counting on me to help you with your estate plan are just going to have find help or a referral from my staff.   And let’s be clear:  you, like me and everyone else, are going to die.

You really have to come to grips with this concept before you make out your estate plan because death is not the last thing you will ever do.   Distribution of assets is the true final act, and since you’re not going to be around to do it, you need your own capable staff to carry out your business.

That staff is your estate plan.  Your will covers the “what” and “to whom” of asset allocation, and any trusts you create handle the “when” and “how.”

Once death occurs, planning pays off for your heirs if done right.  Other than state law, your estate plan is the only roadmap a probate judge, or your trust attorney can use to settle your estate.  And state laws don’t discriminate based on your spendthrift kids, your no-good brother, or your favorite niece.

Hopefully, I will eventually return safe and sound to my office in September and be available to settle any unresolved issues that came up during my vacation.

If I don’t come back, at least I know my own estate plan is complete.  If yours isn’t, get to it before that banana peel trips you up!

James D. Perry

Open the newspaper and on any given day you can find a cautionary tale of an elderly person losing thousands of dollars to his or her caretaker, a scam artist, or some final friend.

The sad fact is that the elderly make easy targets of financial abuse, and you may be their first line of defense against scammers. If you have a parent over the age of 70, you should have a conversation with him or her about what would happen if they could no longer manage money.

Approach your parent respectfully, asking permission to talk about the subject. Your parent is likely to feel vulnerable – relinquishing money means relinquishing control.

You’ll want your parent to sign a durable power of attorney. And, if your parent is already showing signs of mental impairment, you need to act fast. A durable power of attorney must be signed and notarized while your parent is still competent.

If possible, you should include the whole family in the conversation and decision-making. Put all agreements in writing so that there is no argument or second-guessing.

If you already are in charge of your parent’s bank accounts, try not to micromanage. If possible, keep just enough for monthly expenses in a joint checking account and protect the rest in another account. Pay the bills together or help your parent set up automatic bill-pay to prevent forgotten bills.

The change in power can be a tough, emotional transition, but you don’t want to put off protecting your loved ones.

James D. Perry

One of my clients is an avid stamp collector. He has decided that upon his death, his modest collection will go to his granddaughter who grew up learning about and loving his hobby during their summers together.

Individuals pass more to their heirs than just real estate and money – a significant portion of wealth that is inherited comes in the form of art, jewelry, heirlooms and collections.

The difficulty in determining the value of these items and the fluctuations in tax law between this year and next are proving to be tricky for estate planning and estate settlement.

If an inherited asset that is appreciated in value is sold, the profits likely are subject to the capital gains tax. In previous years, capital gains taxes were measured based on the value of the item at the time of the of the original owner’s death under a step up in cost basis.

But, because the step up in cost basis has been suspended this year along with the estate tax, the capital gains tax against 2010 heirs will be measured based on the original owner’s purchase price – not the item’s current value – unless the estate’s executor includes that item as part of the $1.3 million step up that all estates get.

This could be a valuation and tax nightmare for my client’s granddaughter should my client die in 2010. The capital gains tax for collectibles is 28 percent. And many rare objects will require evidence of provenance and proof that taxes were paid on previous sales.

If you have rare collectibles or heirlooms that you intend to pass on, have the items appraised (every five years is recommended) and keep any papers of provenance and purchase in an accessible file. With the return of the estate tax in 2011, you might also consider donating rare collectibles to a museum or other charity, which would allow you to deduct a portion of their value from your estate leaving more to your heirs.

My client’s collection likely holds more sentimental value for his granddaughter than economic, but her grandfather’s pride in his stamps and meticulous record-keeping will protect her from terrible tax confusion when his collection finally becomes hers.

James D. Perry