Late-in-life second marriages are becoming commonplace in American society, and with it, anxiety has been rising among stepchildren. Estate planning lawyers have had to pay greater attention to the particular concerns and needs of blended families because also becoming more common is the courtroom brawls between stepparents and stepchildren and stepsiblings.

The first concern I hear from clients is often related to the financial security of the parents. If Mom moved into Stepdad’s home, what’s to keep Stepdad’s kids from kicking her out of the house if Stepdad were to die first?

The second concern is for the adult children’s prospective inheritance from their natural parent. Many state elective share laws dictate that when a person dies, the spouse naturally inherits a certain share of the estate, which will certainly cut into how much, if any, is left to the decedent’s natural children after the spouse dies.

In California, community property laws can be both a blessing and a nightmare for the adult children of a blended family. On one hand, generally, a surviving spouse doesn’t have a claim over to any property or account kept separately and in the deceased’s name.

However, any property that was held jointly (i.e., homes, common bank accounts) is presumed to be community property and, unless that presumption is rebutted in court, it passes entirely to the surviving spouse. And, even separate property may pass in whole or in part to the surviving spouse if the deceased partner leaves no will.

Older adults bring a greater amount of personal wealth into new relationships and, experts say, they are more practical about the financial realities their late-in-life marriage presents.

A prenuptial or postnuptial agreement can keep Mom in the house owned by Stepdad until her death at which point it passes solely to his children. Keeping property separate in trust accounts can prevent it from being transmuted into community property. And a clause inserted into Dad’s will can ensure that the separate property in his name passes to his children, not his spouse upon his death.

After you die, you could either be rolling in your grave because of the nasty legal battle you left your blended family or resting in peace.

James D. Perry

One of my clients is an avid stamp collector. He has decided that upon his death, his modest collection will go to his granddaughter who grew up learning about and loving his hobby during their summers together.

Individuals pass more to their heirs than just real estate and money – a significant portion of wealth that is inherited comes in the form of art, jewelry, heirlooms and collections.

The difficulty in determining the value of these items and the fluctuations in tax law between this year and next are proving to be tricky for estate planning and estate settlement.

If an inherited asset that is appreciated in value is sold, the profits likely are subject to the capital gains tax. In previous years, capital gains taxes were measured based on the value of the item at the time of the of the original owner’s death under a step up in cost basis.

But, because the step up in cost basis has been suspended this year along with the estate tax, the capital gains tax against 2010 heirs will be measured based on the original owner’s purchase price – not the item’s current value – unless the estate’s executor includes that item as part of the $1.3 million step up that all estates get.

This could be a valuation and tax nightmare for my client’s granddaughter should my client die in 2010. The capital gains tax for collectibles is 28 percent. And many rare objects will require evidence of provenance and proof that taxes were paid on previous sales.

If you have rare collectibles or heirlooms that you intend to pass on, have the items appraised (every five years is recommended) and keep any papers of provenance and purchase in an accessible file. With the return of the estate tax in 2011, you might also consider donating rare collectibles to a museum or other charity, which would allow you to deduct a portion of their value from your estate leaving more to your heirs.

My client’s collection likely holds more sentimental value for his granddaughter than economic, but her grandfather’s pride in his stamps and meticulous record-keeping will protect her from terrible tax confusion when his collection finally becomes hers.

James D. Perry

There are a number of mistakes one can make in financial gifting and distributing assets among heirs. Being aware of the most common problems and addressing them in creating your estate plan can make for a smoother transition of assets.

Timing your gift to you heirs can be very important. If you leave money to a young person, as I’ve written before, you don’t want to give too soon. Financial maturity does not necessarily coincide with age.

But, if you give too late, or neglect telling your heirs of their forthcoming inheritance, you put them at a financial disadvantage. Inheriting sooner through lifetime gifting, or having knowledge of a planned inheritance might change their financial decisions or present to them opportunities that otherwise might pass by.

When you do give, you also need to consider the amount you’re giving. Giving too much may do your heirs more harm than good. There are tax benefits as well as life lessons you may pass on by sharing the wealth among other beneficiaries or by giving to charity.

If you’re planning to leave unequal amounts to your children, proceed with caution. Unequal inheritances – even where one child is more prosperous than another – can create animosity between siblings that may last through their lifetimes and future generations.

However, in an attempt to prevent these problems, you also don’t want to put in place so many controls that you stifle your heirs and the control they have over their inheritance. A trust can be structured with controls and incentives, though, that can help eliminate many of the previously mentioned problems.

Make sure you’re getting good estate planning advice from an estate planning attorney or financial planner, and avoid these common pitfalls.

James D. Perry

With wills and trusts, people tend to “set it and forget it.” But it’s important to revisit your will and trust documents at least every five years, or whenever there is a major life event – new children, new son or daughter in law, new grandchildren, divorce, remarriage, new property, etc.

Guardianship appointments should be current if you have minor children so that you can designate who will care for them if you die.

Your beneficiary designation forms determines who will get your insurance and retirement accounts. This too, should be updated periodically. If you named a sibling or your parents as your beneficiary when you were younger on these forms, you might now want to make sure they go to your spouse or children instead. Many people aren’t aware that these forms override stated wishes in your will so you should consider these documents in tandem to prevent confusion.

Keep all these documents in a safe place – a fire-proof safe, a clearly marked file in your file cabinet, a shared folder on your home computer, or ask your lawyer to hold on to them – and make sure your loved ones know where they can find them if and when they need them.

In a medical emergency, or in moments of mourning, you will not want your family and friends to be in a frenzy when all they want is to honor your wishes and your memory.

If you haven’t started any of these documents, you should immediately create a balance sheet that lists the basic information about your assets and schedule an appointment with your estate-planning attorney as soon as possible.

James D. Perry

At the end of May, parties claiming deceptive business practices by LegalZoom filed a class action lawsuit in California against the online legal document preparation service. They argue that LegalZoom’s advertisements give consumers “a false sense of security that people do not need hire a traditional attorney.”

In July 2007, Anthony Ferrentino asked his niece, Katherine Webster, to help him use LegalZoom to prepare a will and living trust. But, when Katherine went to transfer her uncle’s assets into the trust, she found that the financial institutions that held his money refused to recognize the LegalZoom documents as valid. Katherine tried to get help from LegalZoom’s customer service representatives to no avail, and the trust was still not funded when Anthony died in November 2007.

Katherine is now one of the plaintiffs in the suit against LegalZoom suing on behalf of herself and on behalf of anyone in California who paid LegalZoom for a living trust, will, advance directive for health care, or power of attorney.

The internet has brought a lot of convenience to our lives with its wealth of information, online shopping, and the ease of staying connected to our loved ones. But sometimes convenience means cutting corners, and the one area you don’t want to cut corners is in protecting your loved ones and your property.

These legal document preparation services are not the same as going to an actual attorney, but they do not clarify that in their user agreements. And, customer service representatives may look over your documents, but they cannot dispense legal advice, identifying problem areas or correcting mistakes. The documents are customized with your personal information, but they are not tailored to your needs.

After her uncle’s death, Katherine hired an estate planning attorney to petition the court to allow the post-death funding of the trust and to convince the banks to transfer the funds. The attorney also discovered that Anthony’s will was never properly witnessed.

Correcting the mistakes ended up costing Anthony’s estate thousands of dollars. Doing it right the first time would have saved time and money, and a lot of emotional stress. In the end, the “convenience” simply wasn’t worth it.

James D. Perry

In this digital age, you probably have at least one email account. Perhaps two. And maybe a Facebook page to keep in touch with your grandkids, and a LinkedIn account to stay networked with your professional colleagues. You might even have a blog.

What will happen to all that online information after you die? To the account holder’s benefit, many sites refuse to grant access to anyone other than the account holder. Or, the companies have cumbersome hoops for heirs to jump through to gain control of those accounts, which might include getting a court order. And, the government has very little regulation stipulating how online accounts are to be disposed of upon the account holder’s death.

You will first want to inventory your digital assets: you email accounts, blog, social media and networking accounts (Facebook, Flickr, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc.), and any information stored on employer intranets or computers.

Then, determine the worth, if any, of your digital property. A popular blog or Twitter account with many followers may be worth money. Computer files of your manuscript about the history of railroads, or your ornithological research may have educational value. Photographs and other personal assets may or may not have monetary value, but they almost certainly have significance to your heirs.

Most of us fiercely guard our passwords and account information because of warnings against hackers, viruses, and identity theft. But once you’ve listed all your accounts, you need to decide who will be in charge of each of them (or all of them).

Then, write out your instructions and keep them with your estate planning documents. Otherwise, the decision may end up in the hands of the courts or the website administrators.

James D. Perry

My Dad was a guy who loved is family and took care of little things behind the scenes to make his kids lives a bit easier. One of those things was to prepay a cremation of his body and interment of his ashes at plots that he and my mother purchased years ago at Rose Hills.

When he died, his preplanning saved me many hours of decision-making and legwork. The only downside, if there was one, is that I get periodic calls from my Rose Hills representative urging me to prepay my own plan.

Paying in advance combines pre-planning with pre-funding, which makes it an attractive estate planning mechanism. Often, prepaid burial plans are a tool used to “spend down” excess funds to qualify a client for MediCal Long Term Care benefits.

There are primarily three ways to pre-pay for a funeral: insurance, trusts, and individual funding.

An individual may buy a whole-life insurance policy to cover the costs when needed, or money may be put into a trust run by a financial institution or statewide funeral directors association.

Individual funding may be done through so-called guaranteed and non-guaranteed plans. Under a guaranteed plan, a funeral home promises that if you pay today, it will provide services to you when needed no matter how much prices rise. Many of them exempt other costs, such as flowers and music, though, and changes to the plan potentially void the price guarantee. A non-guaranteed plan offers no such price protections.

Whatever route you might choose to take in pre-paying your funeral, though, be aware of the risks.

Revoking a prepaid plan is not easy. California imposes up to a 10% fee on prepayments in trust. And, canceling an insurance policy entitles you to receive only the cash value of the policy – not necessarily the value of premiums paid – minus commissions and costs.

Also, there are widespread allegations of fraud and mismanagement within the industry. State and federal legislators are working to curb abuses through regulation and disclosure requirements, but consumer protections for those caught in a scam are still not strong.

Some consider it sound financial planning – a hedge against inflation locking in today’s prices in an industry where prices continue increasing. Others simply wish to spare their loved ones the trouble of picking out caskets, buying burial plots, and making other arrangements during their grieving.

As with any investment, diligent scrutiny and seeking legal and financial advice where needed are key to ensuring your money and your loved ones are protected.

James D. Perry

I blogged a few months ago about the change in California law that permits probate courts to rule in on the validity of a statement in your will that threatens to disinherit any person who files a lawsuit contesting the validity of your will.

Under current law, the courts will allow good faith challenges that allege some sort of wrong-doing in the creation of the will, including an allegation that the testator was under some undue influence in writing out the terms of his estate distribution.

So what is undue influence? One example was in the infamous Marshall v. Marshall battle where Anna Nicole Smith alleged that her late husband’s son engaged in malicious and willful behavior to prevent his father from leaving Anna Nicole a substantial gift in his will.

Many times the elderly are easy targets for manipulation and unscrupulous individuals, often family members, who try to manipulate them into signing a last will and testament to their advantage.

The court will look at all the circumstances to determine whether an individual asserted undue influence and it may void a gift under a will.

The court may look at the relationship between the donee and the testator (drafter of the will). Why is this person getting the money? Is the donee a family member or a normally expected heir?

The court may also look to the level of involvement in the donor’s affairs or the involvement in the gift itself. The greater involvement, the less questionable it might be that the person would inherit. For example if the donee drove the testator to the attorney’s office, sat in on the meeting with the attorney, and paid the attorney fee, the court would presume that the testator was subjected to undue influence.

It’s also worth noting the circumstances under which the property was promised in the will, such as if and when the will was changed from a longstanding estate plan, and whether the change was made in secret or if the testator’s intentions were shared with others. Also, what was the physical and mental state of the testator at the time the will was written or changed?

These aren’t exclusive factors in determining whether there was undue influence or not, but they are questions worth asking in the interests of protecting yourself and your loved ones.

On a final note, there is no law against asking someone to leave you something in a will. You and your sister might both ask your 96-year-old grandma to leave you her 5-karat Harry Winston diamond ring. But if your grandma is in a fragile mental or physical state, and you lie to her and tell her that your sister is a drug addict who will surely pawn any jewelry for cash – that’s undue influence. You usually know it when you see it…it doesn’t pass the smell test.

James D. Perry

Recently, a client of mine died and his family could not find a signed copy of the trust he had created. People lose things; it’s a fact of life. But, what do you do if you lose the documents detailing your estate plan?

If you lose your original will, and there is no copy on file with your estate-planning attorney, the state considers the will revoked. There are exceptions to this, and the presumption can be overcome in probate court by a preponderance of evidence showing that the will was not destroyed or intentionally revoked. Probate court is an expensive hassle, though, and if you do not have the evidence to over come that presumption, you will die intestate leaving the probate court to distribute your assets according to state law rather than according to your express wishes.

Unlike a will, though, a trust is not necessarily deemed “revoked” if you lose the papers. If you have transferred assets – like your house – into the trust, the transfer will be reflected in the deed or title.

People, including the elderly, sometimes throw out or shred files and papers that they think are of no more use. Or, they might go overboard with their ideas about “security” making it very difficult to find the papers they need when they need them. Estate planning documents have been found in freezers, lampshades, mattresses, or behind pictures. Conditions and diseases like dementia and Alzheimer’s can exasperate these problems.

It’s important to safeguard your estate plan documents. Leave copies with your estate planning attorney, your trustee, or another person so there is evidence of your wishes readily available.

James D. Perry

You may be willing to trust your teenage grandchildren to house sit for you while you’re away for the weekend, but would you trust them to properly manage your entire bank account after you die?

Paris and Nicky Hilton, heiresses to the Hilton Hotel fortune, are notorious for their party-girl ways. DUI charges and driving violations landed Paris in jail at the age of 25, and Nicky has a reputation for drifting in and out of relationships with potentially opportunistic suitors. Neither has yet shown the maturity necessary to manage the Hilton’s billions should they take over any substantial part of estate today – much less so had they inherited at the age of 18.

Generally, if you decide to leave an inheritance in trust, the account can provide for the minor’s health, education and maintenance through a custodian (living parent or appointed conservator) until he or she becomes an adult. However, once he or she reaches majority, the remainder of the account is discharged to them outright.

You also have the option to hold a minor beneficiary’s inheritance in a trust to be paid out in stages or based on milestones. For example, you could pay a beneficiary 50 percent of his inheritance when he reaches the age of 25 and the remainder at 30; or, 50 percent when he gets his bachelor’s degree and 50 percent when he gets his master’s degree. Again, though, once the beneficiary receives a lump sum free of trust, that property is vulnerable to bad decisions, lawsuits, and divorcing spouses (only if transformed into community property in California).

There is also the option of leaving the minor’s inheritance in a lifetime trust. The assets are managed indefinitely by a trustee or until a designated time when the beneficiary may take full control. The inheritance is protected from divorcing spouses, lawsuits, and if a third-party trustee is used, from the beneficiary’s own bad decisions. If there is anything left in the trust when the beneficiary dies, you can control who will receive the remainder.

There are added costs that come with the administration of a lifetime trust, including accounting and legal fees. And the trustee may be entitled to receive a fee for services rendered while administering the trust. These costs must be weighed against the amount of inheritance and your own long-term estate planning goals when drawing up your will.

Keep in mind, though that some people will never be able to handle money properly, due to disability or character flaw. Some clients struggle with how much control they can or should have from beyond the grave, but only you can determine how much weight, if any, to give such considerations.

You may not be a Hilton, but careful planning in advance can make for a smooth transfer of property.

James D. Perry