With wills and trusts, people tend to “set it and forget it.” But it’s important to revisit your will and trust documents at least every five years, or whenever there is a major life event – new children, new son or daughter in law, new grandchildren, divorce, remarriage, new property, etc.

Guardianship appointments should be current if you have minor children so that you can designate who will care for them if you die.

Your beneficiary designation forms determines who will get your insurance and retirement accounts. This too, should be updated periodically. If you named a sibling or your parents as your beneficiary when you were younger on these forms, you might now want to make sure they go to your spouse or children instead. Many people aren’t aware that these forms override stated wishes in your will so you should consider these documents in tandem to prevent confusion.

Keep all these documents in a safe place – a fire-proof safe, a clearly marked file in your file cabinet, a shared folder on your home computer, or ask your lawyer to hold on to them – and make sure your loved ones know where they can find them if and when they need them.

In a medical emergency, or in moments of mourning, you will not want your family and friends to be in a frenzy when all they want is to honor your wishes and your memory.

If you haven’t started any of these documents, you should immediately create a balance sheet that lists the basic information about your assets and schedule an appointment with your estate-planning attorney as soon as possible.

James D. Perry

Up until last month, Whittier, California was best known for being the hometown of Richard Nixon — and me. It looks like this honor will now pass to Nadya Suleman’s octuplets and her six other kids.

I’m still waiting by the phone for Nadya to call me for some estate planning advice. I assume that in light of the numerous death threats she has received she will want to write a will and appoint guardians to take care of her kids in the event of her early demise.

Nadya, or any parents with young children should name one personal guardian for each child, and an alternate in case the first choice can’t serve.

Under California Probate Law, you may name more than one guardian, but it’s generally not a good idea because of the possibility that the coguardians will later disagree. On the other hand, if you prefer that two people care for your child — for example, a stable couple that would act as coparents – you should name both of them, so that they each have the legal power to make important decisions on behalf of your child.

Here are some things to consider when choosing a personal guardian for your kids:

Is the prospective guardian old enough? The person must be at least 18 years old in most states.
Does the prospective guardian have a genuine concern for your children’s welfare?
Is the prospective guardian physically able to handle the job?
Does he or she have the time?
Does he or she have kids of an age close to that of your children?
Can you provide enough assets to raise the children? If not, can your prospective guardian afford to bring them up?
Does the prospective guardian share your moral beliefs?
Would your children have to move?

If you’re having a hard time choosing someone, take some time to talk with the person you’re considering. One or more of your candidates may not be willing or able to accept the responsibility, or their feelings about acting as guardian may help you decide.

In Nadya’s case, news reports lead me to believe her parents may not want the job of guardian for the octuplets. They have their hands full helping out with their first six grandchildren. Since Nadya is an only child herself, she can forget about sisters and brothers taking the job.

Any volunteers out there?

James D. Perry