Recently, a client of mine died and his family could not find a signed copy of the trust he had created. People lose things; it’s a fact of life. But, what do you do if you lose the documents detailing your estate plan?

If you lose your original will, and there is no copy on file with your estate-planning attorney, the state considers the will revoked. There are exceptions to this, and the presumption can be overcome in probate court by a preponderance of evidence showing that the will was not destroyed or intentionally revoked. Probate court is an expensive hassle, though, and if you do not have the evidence to over come that presumption, you will die intestate leaving the probate court to distribute your assets according to state law rather than according to your express wishes.

Unlike a will, though, a trust is not necessarily deemed “revoked” if you lose the papers. If you have transferred assets – like your house – into the trust, the transfer will be reflected in the deed or title.

People, including the elderly, sometimes throw out or shred files and papers that they think are of no more use. Or, they might go overboard with their ideas about “security” making it very difficult to find the papers they need when they need them. Estate planning documents have been found in freezers, lampshades, mattresses, or behind pictures. Conditions and diseases like dementia and Alzheimer’s can exasperate these problems.

It’s important to safeguard your estate plan documents. Leave copies with your estate planning attorney, your trustee, or another person so there is evidence of your wishes readily available.

James D. Perry

You may be willing to trust your teenage grandchildren to house sit for you while you’re away for the weekend, but would you trust them to properly manage your entire bank account after you die?

Paris and Nicky Hilton, heiresses to the Hilton Hotel fortune, are notorious for their party-girl ways. DUI charges and driving violations landed Paris in jail at the age of 25, and Nicky has a reputation for drifting in and out of relationships with potentially opportunistic suitors. Neither has yet shown the maturity necessary to manage the Hilton’s billions should they take over any substantial part of estate today – much less so had they inherited at the age of 18.

Generally, if you decide to leave an inheritance in trust, the account can provide for the minor’s health, education and maintenance through a custodian (living parent or appointed conservator) until he or she becomes an adult. However, once he or she reaches majority, the remainder of the account is discharged to them outright.

You also have the option to hold a minor beneficiary’s inheritance in a trust to be paid out in stages or based on milestones. For example, you could pay a beneficiary 50 percent of his inheritance when he reaches the age of 25 and the remainder at 30; or, 50 percent when he gets his bachelor’s degree and 50 percent when he gets his master’s degree. Again, though, once the beneficiary receives a lump sum free of trust, that property is vulnerable to bad decisions, lawsuits, and divorcing spouses (only if transformed into community property in California).

There is also the option of leaving the minor’s inheritance in a lifetime trust. The assets are managed indefinitely by a trustee or until a designated time when the beneficiary may take full control. The inheritance is protected from divorcing spouses, lawsuits, and if a third-party trustee is used, from the beneficiary’s own bad decisions. If there is anything left in the trust when the beneficiary dies, you can control who will receive the remainder.

There are added costs that come with the administration of a lifetime trust, including accounting and legal fees. And the trustee may be entitled to receive a fee for services rendered while administering the trust. These costs must be weighed against the amount of inheritance and your own long-term estate planning goals when drawing up your will.

Keep in mind, though that some people will never be able to handle money properly, due to disability or character flaw. Some clients struggle with how much control they can or should have from beyond the grave, but only you can determine how much weight, if any, to give such considerations.

You may not be a Hilton, but careful planning in advance can make for a smooth transfer of property.

James D. Perry

Over their lives, people tend to accumulate a lot of “stuff”: furniture, clothing, knick-knacks, books, personal collections, etc. And when they die, that stuff gets passed on to their loved ones, taking up space in their garages, looking oddly out of place in their dining rooms, or sitting in storage simply because the heirs can’t bear to part with it.

It’s not uncommon as an estate planning and probate lawyer to see how people who inherit furniture and other material wealth tend to unnecessarily cling to those physical items. Even I have been dealing with this in the wake of my father’s death: I just do not want to let some things go.

A recent New York Times article highlights the power we give these material objects over our lives, and points to the problem of hoarding, which has become fodder for reality television shows. Hoarding is a serious compulsion, and most people don’t accumulate stuff to that extreme.

But seeing that extreme can force us to look at how we may be hanging on to unnecessary material things when all we really want is the memory that thing evokes.

The trinkets we’ve been given or that we’ve picked up somewhere special become the physical manifestation of the memory of the giver or the context in which it was gained. But “your mother or grandmother didn’t plan for you to become overwhelmed by them,” says Jamie Novak, a professional organizer and author of “Stop Throwing Money Away.”

Organizing experts suggest that you pass on the memories instead of the goods. And, if you already have Aunt Sally’s armoire taking up space in your living room, take a picture of it before donating it to charity.

You don’t have to hold on to the stuff letting it clutter up you life, when you can more easily hold on to the memories.

James D. Perry

See Jim’s review of Jamie Novak’s book “Stop Throwing Money Away” (John Wiley & Sons) in the Summer edition of the Perry Estate Planning Newsletter.

In yet another development in the sensational saga spanning 15 years, a court of appeals recently ruled that none of J. Howard Marshall’s billions will go to the estate of his late-in-life bride, Anna Nicole Smith.

The former Playboy model challenged her late husband’s will in a Houston probate court alleging that his son, E. Pierce Marshall, had illegally coerced his father to exclude her. She claimed that Howard had promised to leave her more than $300 million.

The court found, though, that Howard was mentally fit and under no undue pressure when he wrote the will that left nothing to Anna Nicole.

The two met in a strip club and were married in 1994, Howard at the age of 89 and Anna Nicole, 26. Howard died a mere 14 months later and in his will left nearly all of his $1.6 billion estate to Pierce.

Since the legal battle began, both Pierce and Anna Nicole have died leaving their respective estates to duke it out in court. Pierce is succeeded in the litigation by his heirs, a wife and two sons, and Smith left a daughter, now 3, fathered by an ex-boyfriend.

The case has already bounced around both state and federal courts in bankruptcy and probate, and has been through numerous appeals, even getting a day in the U.S. Supreme Court on a question of jurisdiction.

Unsatisfied, though, Anna Nicole’s probate lawyer is already planning to appeal the latest ruling.

James D. Perry

A living will – called an advance directive for health care here in California – is an important part of your estate-planning arsenal. In the event of an accident or life-threatening incapacitation, an advance directive dictates your medical care and treatment preferences. This is especially helpful to family members and care providers because where there is uncertainty and disagreement, the court may have to step in.

An advance directive for heath care can fail its essential purpose, though, if it is ambiguous about treatment options and does not provide enough detailed guidance.

A recent MSNBC article highlighted this problem in the story of Bunny Olenick, an 87-year-old from Boston who became incapacitated by a severe stroke. She had a living will and a medical power of attorney, but her sons were left with questions about assisted breathing devices and feeding tubes and the quality of life she would sustain because of them.

She had stated that she didn’t want to be intubated or hooked up to a respirator, but did that preclude temporary nasogastric tubes for nutrition or a short-term oxygen mask?

Bunny’s sons were able to take advantage of palliative care counseling, which helped them navigate her legal documents and the preferences she had shared with them prior to her stroke.

However, had the sons gotten into a disagreement about Bunny’s wishes, they might have ended up petitioning a judge to appoint a medical proxy. The legal process is costly and ultimately may prolong an incapacitated individual’s life or suffering where he or she would not want it.

No one really likes to ponder their own death, but appropriate advanced planning can save you and your family pain and confusion in a time better spent saying goodbye.

James D. Perry

A recent article by Forbes highlighted what I believe to be a serious problem: half of Americans don’t have even the most basic estate planning documents.

According to a phone survey conducted among 1,022 adults in December 2009, only 35% have a will and only 29% have a living will, which states an individual’s views on end of life medical procedures.

The numbers are only a little more promising for the elderly. Fifty-one percent of adults over the age of 65 have a health care power of attorney in place, and 58% say they have a living will.

The poor economy seems to have taken its toll – 44% report they are more focused on immediate needs, such as groceries and paying bills rather than future protection. And, there seems to be a misconception amongst the survey respondents that they don’t need an estate plan if they are not independently wealthy.

In fact, it can be more costly in the long run for those who fail to prepare estate-planning documents.

If you die intestate (without a will) a lot of your assets may get chewed up in probate court rather than going to your loved ones. And, your family may have to pay heavy court costs out-of-pocket if they have to go through legal proceedings to get a judge to appoint someone to make medical decisions for you should you suffer an incapacitating accident or illness.

If you haven’t put together an estate plan, I encourage you to do so to protect your assets, your personal wishes, and your family in the event they have to make difficult decisions.

James D. Perry

An Alameda Superior Court judge decided this month not every felony conviction will disqualify you from helping the elderly or disabled.

Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger originally wanted to ban everyone with a felony record from working in the In-Home Supportive Services program (IHSS). As the law stands, workers are barred from the program for 10 years if they have been convicted of child abuse, elder abuse, or defrauding MediCal or any patient.

Outside those restrictions, though, Judge David Hunter says in-home patients can employ anyone they want.

IHSS helps pay for in-home care to 430,000 low-income elderly and disabled Californians. It allows patients to remain in their homes under the care of individuals of their choosing, as approved by the state, to render help with daily tasks, such as bathing, house cleaning, meal preparation, laundry, grocery shopping, personal care services, accompaniment to medical appointments, and protective supervision for the mentally impaired.

The state argues that its interest is protecting Californians and preventing fraud.

One of the plaintiffs to the suit is a Sacramento woman who provides in-home care for her 90-year-old-mother. She was initially disqualified under the governor’s plan because of a 1976 conviction for felony grand theft.

The program costs about $5.5 billion annually, half of which is paid for by the federal government, 35% by the state, and 15% by individual counties.

“We are following the court order, but we do not believe convicted felons should be eligible to care for elderly and disabled Californians in their homes,” said Lizelda Lopez, spokeswoman for the Department of Social Services.

The state could appeal the ruling, and Ms. Lopez says the Department is already reviewing it.

This is tricky ground. The state has a legitimate interest in protecting its citizens and taxpayer dollars, but how long should it punish people for their crimes at the expense of the elderly and disabled?

James D. Perry

I recently came across a truly heart-warming story about a neighborhood initiative in the Washington, D.C. area.

Harry Rosenberg and his wife, Barbara Filner, along with nine of their neighbors started an aging-in-place “village” in their Bethesda, Maryland community to help their elderly neighbors with basic services such as transportation and home maintenance, helping them to stay in their homes longer as they aged.

Their first request for assistance came in November 2008: they helped an 81-year-old widow take out her trash and drover her to the doctor. The organization has a budget of $4,000 collected solely through donations. It charges no dues and has about 65 “friends” who volunteer, receive help, or are otherwise are associated.

And while it doesn’t receive many requests for assistance Harry and Barbara say it is still a viable presence in the community hosting neighborhood walks and restaurant outings. There are now six similar “villages” in the city itself, two in the Virginia suburbs, and eight others in the planning stages in the Maryland suburbs.

The first such aging-in-place community on record was called an “intentional community” in Boston’s Beacon Hill neighborhood to which members paid dues to provide collective services. The idea spread and “intentional communities” popped up in California, Illinois, Colorado, Florida, Hawaii, New York, and other states, and the first international intentional community was in Australia.

Retirement communities are expensive and aren’t always the best option. Not every older adult needs the care of trained staff but could use, perhaps, the helpful hand of neighbor every now and then. If you are interested in learning more about aging-in-place initiatives or starting one in your community you can learn more at http://www.aginginplaceinitiative.org/.

James D. Perry

America’s prison population is nearing 2.5 million – roughly 1 person in every 133 – so it’s not unusual that I’ve had clients who have friends or family who are incarcerated.

Leaving assets to a federal, state, or county inmate comes with some bureaucratic hurdles and must be done with careful assessment.

In California, when an individual dies leaving an inheritance to a prisoner, both the Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation and the Victim Compensation and Government Claims Board must be notified. If a prisoner owes any money as restitution as part of his or her criminal sentence, the VCGCB with the help of the Franchise Tax Board is going to take its chunk first.

For example, I had an elderly client with very little family who willed part of his estate to a friend doing a few years’ time in state prison. His friend did not owe any restitution on his sentence, and all lawyers and state agencies involved were properly notified.

However, it was later discovered that he hadn’t paid child support to his wife in over 15 years. The arrearage was near $100,000, which was roughly equal to the value of the inheritance my client left him.

In some states, the department of corrections may even collect the cost of incarceration from an inmate’s inheritance by filing a lien in probate court. The State of Connecticut’s laws allow the probate court to extract the cost of incarceration or 50 percent of the inheritance, whichever is less.

If you’re thinking of leaving assets to a guest of the State, I urge caution. If you intend to provide a nest egg for a prisoner’s reentry into society, be aware of the debts they may have incurred as a result of their crimes, and recognize that they don’t have the autonomy to make decisions regarding that chunk of change until their release.

James D. Perry

My family said goodbye last month to my dad who celebrated his 94^th birthday last June and had lived a full life. He spent his final weeks at home with hospice care surrounded by the people he loved.

He manifested signs of dementia during his final years, but we were able make the decisions necessary for his medical care because he had an advance health care directive which set for his wishes for end of life care.

People hoping to avoid a prolonged dying process or to prevent family confusion and turmoil should execute an advance directive. Because a stroke or auto accident can lead to severe impairment, it’s never too early to have a plan in place.

The first step is to draw up an Advanced Directive for Health Care. This is known in some states as a living will. You can specify your preferences on a wide range of options – resuscitation, hydration, drugs, intubation, etc. – requesting that you want everything to be done or limiting medical interventions.

The second step is to appoint a health care agent, someone you know well and trust, to whom you designate to make medical decisions for you by way of your health care directive. That person will use your advance directive as guidance to make decisions that you yourself cannot make due to incapacity.

Your health care proxy should be someone who knows you well and someone who will be willing to carry out your wishes, even in the face of family conflict. Your agent in California will also be the person responsible for implementing your wishes for disposition of your body after your death.

Once your advance directive is in order, be sure to give a copy to your doctors, the proxy, your attorney, and your family. Be sure to communicate with your relatives and health care providers about your concerns and wishes.

All who knew my dad miss him and grieve his loss. Still as a family, we are comforted that he lived and died just as he wanted without unnecessary trips to the emergency hospital, or unwanted medical intervention, at a time when he just wanted peace.

James D. Perry